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Kandi is a Grammy Award-winning singer/songwriter who resides in Atlanta and is a former member of Xscape. You can currently find her on Bravo's Real Housewives Of Atlanta!





EXCLUSIVE: Atlanta Housewife Kandi Burruss Speaks On Death Of Fiance A.J.

By Kandi October 6, 2009 9:00 am







UPDATE: Some of Kandi’s Bravo cast mates have released statements on the situation, and we just got our hands on A.J.’s last tweet, posted hours before he was killed:



NeNe Leakes, “RIP AJ from the real housewives of Atlanta! My thoughts & prayers r with Kandi, his children & family”



Lisa Wu Hartwell, “Everyone please keep aj’s family and@kandiconnection in ur prayers.”



Kim Zolciak, “please Pray for my dear friend Kandi and her loss. I adored AJ and he will be missed dearly.”



Dwight Eubanks, “She’s had such a dramatic year,” he said. “She had her uncle die, too. She has her own career to focus on. Now her life has changed with her daughter and taking temporary custody of [AJ's] twins. My father was murdered some years ago. I know the pain and stress she’s going through.”



Andy Cohen, “To express over twitter seems to somehow minimize the depth of emotion, but condolences and prayers to Kandi and AJ’s children.”



Jill Zarin (Real Housewives of NYC), “An Open Letter housewife of Atlanta..Kandi Dear Kandi, Though we never met, my heart goes out to you. I know I can speak for the entire cast in New York and share our deepest condolences. I can’t imagine how you must be feeling but know the coun…try loves Kandi. You are a talented, driven, generous person who only deserves the best. Let your mom and friends take care of you. Love, Jill”



Bethenny (Real Housewives NYC), “Oh my god. This is terrible. pray for them. still on tarmac so no news. “



Take a look at A.J.’s last tweet:







UPDATE: A funeral date has been set for “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Kandi Burruss’ ex-fiance A.J. Jewell. According to Entertainment Tonight the funeral for Jewell will be held this Friday in Georgia. Jewell, 34, died from “massive head injuries” sustained during a fight, which took place in the parking lot of a strip club where police say Jewell worked.



In this EXCLUSIVE blog sent to HelloBeautiful.com, “Real Housewives of Atlanta’s” KANDI BURRESS expresses her heartfelt grief over the loss of her fiance, AJ Jewell. Jewell suffered tragic head injuries after a fight at an Atlanta nightclub.



Kandi has asked that her privacy be respected at this difficult time.







TIME



Why is it that every TIME something great is happening in your life it seems like its accompanied by something tragic? I have lost two very important men in my life in one week. The 1st was my Uncle Ralph, the 2nd is A.J.



My Uncle Ralph was one of my favorite people in the whole wide world. He was the type that could make you laugh even when you were pissed off and make you smile as soon as he walked in the room. My Uncle was one of my biggest supporters & he would do anything for me or the rest of my family. Even though he didn’t have any money he was always trying to give me little gifts. Which I thought was cute because he was just trying to show how much he cared event hough he knew I didn’t need it. Uncle Ralph was gay & always lived his life loud & proud. He partied like a rock star growing up & still enjoyed life as an older man. We first found out about his cancer at least two years ago. It went into remission for a while & eventually came back to claim his life slowly until TIME came for him to go to GOD.



When you loose someone to an illness like cancer it hurts bad, but at least you get a little TIME to prepare yourself for what’s coming. Some people make amends, some spend a little more TIME with the person in their last days, and others at least get a chance just to say “I love you”. When you know death is coming you get a chance to make preparations, and although its a difficult conversation you even get to ask the person what they would like to be done on their behalf. So what about when death comes as a suprise?



I hate to question God but don’t you hate when you feel like somebody was just taken away too soon? I just feel like A.J just had so much more living to do. Not that my Uncle didn’t, don’t get me wrong, but it just don’t feel right that A.J’s TIME is over.



There was so much that he wanted to do. When I spoke to him yesterday I never thought that it would be for the last TIME! A.J had a great spirit and he was a good man. He was a father of six kids but had other children that he raised and loved like his own, including mine. So AJ was a father to many. It truly bothered him the way he has been portrayed in the media and actually it has bothered me too. AJ was NOT a “Scrub” like so many people like to blog and say. He had his own when we got together. He did not need me for financial gain, nor did he use me to gain some type of celebrity. When we got together we had no clue that we would be on t.v.. In all actuality, A.J hated and was uncomfortable with being on camera. He also hated that we made the decision to be on the show. Off camera A.J was very charismatic and a friend to many. He believed in God and always genuinely tried to do the right thing.



He is gonna be missed by so many. Especially by his children, the biological ones & the ones he just claimed. When I told my daughter Riley she just cried all morning. I didn’t know what to do or to say to make her feel better. I started wondering how his other kids were handling it. That’s one reason why I feel like he was just taken too soon. Now they have no father. That breaks me down inside. They needed more TIME.



When you lose someone unexpectedly & sudden like we lost A.J there are all these unanswered questions. We didn’t get a chance to spend a little more TIME & make amends. Some of us didn’t get to say or just didn’t say “I love you”. I know I’m sitting here thinking about things I wish I would’ve done differently or things I wish I would’ve said that I’ll never get to do now. When you’re young you automatically assume that you got all the TIME in the world but then something like this happens and you realize that you’re not guaranteed TIME. It brings to life so many sayings that people say like, “Tell them that you love them everyday cuz you may never get to say it again” or “Don’t go to bed mad cuz they may not be here tomorrow”. A lot of young people don’t think about life insurance policies or wills because we think we have so much TIME. That saying TIME is valuable has never been more real to me than it is right now. TIME is way more important than money or tangible things but yet we take it for granted. Please take it from me, treasure the TIME you have with your loved ones & if there are issues or problems make sure you work it out before you run out of TIME….



Much Love,

Kandi









For more information about Kandi’s tragic loss click here



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choclate77choclate77

11-23-2009 4:40 pm

I have loved Kandi since she came out with the group Xsacpe. My heart goes out to AJ’s family and to Kandi. He will be missed. He was a great man 4 u. Keep ya head up Kandi and keep goin.



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11-9-2009 6:00 pm

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Mink3030Mink3030

10-27-2009 6:35 pm

Hey Kandi girl Im very very sorry for your lost my heart aches with yours me and my mom were not on good terms when she died and I was 1500 miles away and believe me I was and still torn apart I know what u mean when you say make ammends,Im praying for my strength daily as well as yours Sincerely MrsMink



MICADELIGHTMICADELIGHT

10-23-2009 8:29 pm

Kandi, it seems that everyone always has something to say about your relationship when you seem too happy. I guess folks feel its too good to be true for you to be such a successful black woman in the public eye and have a relationship with the “everyday” black man without something being wrong with him. Most of the people talking have too many issues and find it easier to find fault in someone like your fiance because they dont have the same things. I admire you Kandi as a successful black woman and you are the reason that I began watching Real Housewives of Atlanta! I wish you, your kids, your fiance’s kids and family all the blessings due to you from GOD as only HE can judge you and HE knows your fiance’s spirit. May he rest peacefully in heaven. GOD BLESS YOU!



joedogg563joedogg563

10-23-2009 8:01 am

KANDI HOW I AM TRULY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS OF A GOOD MAN. HE HAD HIS UPS AN DOWNS BUT AS FAR AS I CAN SEE HE WAS JUST THAT SOME MEN DON’T CARE ABOUT MOMS APPROVAL AND HE DID I TAKE MY HAT OFF TO HIM. MAY GOD BE WITH YOU AN YOUR AN HIS FAMILY AT A TIME LIKE THIS.



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10-21-2009 8:56 pm

Kandi i am truly sorry for your lost.I’ll definately keep you and your family in my prayers.And i can only pray things will get better for you in time.Stay strong & stay blessed God will be there for you.



kolondawkolondaw

10-16-2009 4:44 pm

Kandi, I am a fan of the show as well as your music, I am very sorry for your loss. My prayers will be with you. You are such a sweet and humble person and that’s what I like. Now, I hope I’m not stepping on anyone’s toes but, is your mom sorry at all for the way she may have treated him from what the public could see from the show or is it–IT IS WHAT IT IS? Love ya girl



barderiabarderia

10-13-2009 5:44 pm

May God Bless you and yours…



prettygrl43prettygrl43

10-13-2009 5:39 pm

kandi i have watched the show and i have to say you are a very sweet and strong black women with a wonderful spirit and god will see you in this time of pain. and your music is great



Johnny_B_Good1Johnny_B_Good1

10-13-2009 9:42 am

hello kandis



Johnny_B_Good1Johnny_B_Good1

10-13-2009 9:41 am

hello kandi, first of all i’m very very sorry for your loss of your love one’s, please please, hold on to jesus, the pain does get just a little better, only time will tell what percentage of getting better it gets, they will always be in your mind and in your heart, for ever and ever, just keep on taking it 1 day at a time, god really does truly lov’s you, and thats real. as for as the drama goes on the show, please take care of your self, and if you are not hungry, don’t feed on it, i no you can rise above that, always remember it takes 2 to keep in going, ps. pl take care, lov you.



DAGHETTOBANDITDAGHETTOBANDIT

10-12-2009 7:33 pm

kandi you are a very nice person, and I’m sorry about the lost of your love ones. May God Bless you, and yours forever.



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